How to process an unexpected pregnancy

How do you begin to process an unexpected pregnancy? You might be feeling scared, confused, overwhelmed, or angry. Just know you are not alone. 

Almost half of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned. Many women have experienced or are currently experiencing what you are feeling. 

It’s a lot to process, but we are here to help.

How to begin processing my unexpected pregnancy.

1. Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling

It’s completely normal to have strong and sometimes conflicting feelings about your unexpected pregnancy. Allowing yourself to feel each emotion you are feeling can give you clarity about yourself and your next steps. Remember just because you feel an emotion, doesn’t mean you are that emotion.  

Sometimes it can be hard to pinpoint what you are feeling. Using the feelings wheel below can help you identify how you are feeling. 

Feelings Wheel
To learn more about how to use the feelings wheel read more here.

2. Face your fears

If you’re experiencing an unexpected pregnancy, you probably have a lot of fears about the future. How will I make this work? What will other people think of me? Will my friends and family support me? Am I really capable of doing this? How will this impact my future plans?

It’s normal for doubts and fears to creep in. But don’t let fear make your pregnancy decision for you. Reminding yourself of things that are true can help you remain confident in who you are and your capability to make it through.

3. Know all your pregnancy options

Educate yourself on all of your pregnancy options. Weigh the pros and cons and each potential outcome and risk. 

  1. Parenting
  2. Adoption
  3. Abortion 

Learn what organizations and support groups are available to you. Being informed about each option can empower you to make the decision that is right for you.  

Make an appointment with us at Care Net of Puget Sound. We can walk you through parenting, adoption, and abortion options and help you find the right local support and resources you need. Our client advocates and medical professionals are dedicated to helping you explore your pregnancy options so you can make a pregnancy decision with confidence. We do not provide or refer for abortions and do not profit from your pregnancy decision, so you won’t be pressured into a decision. Schedule your free pregnancy consultation today.

4. Don’t rush your decision

It’s a good idea to not rush any big decisions. Just like with any decision, you want to make sure you give yourself enough time to think through each option (both short-term and long-term) and talk it over with people you trust.

5. Find the right support

You don’t want to do this alone. It can be tempting to shut people out when you’re experiencing unexpected change, but it will only make it harder for you. Confide in someone you trust, like your partner, your family, a mentor, or a friend. 

If you feel like you don’t have anyone you can talk to, our client advocates will always be a compassionate, supportive place to come.  Make an appointment at Care Net of Puget sound to find the support, answers, and care you need. All of our services are free of charge with no insurance required. You are not alone.

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