It’s never easy to talk about abortion, especially for people who go through with it. Women and men who’ve experienced it may carry a burden of thoughts that need to be explained and feelings that need to be addressed. That’s why it is important to learn the truth about abortion grief and the recovery process.
Thoughts and Feelings After Abortion
Deciding to proceed with abortion may involve tossing and turning between confusion, guilt, and contentment. As soon as the abortion is done, some women feel relieved to have survived the procedure. However, this feeling may be fleeting for others. There’s a possible realization of having lost something that cannot be taken back, causing sadness and regret. This mixture of grief and relief can cause emotional confusion, which could overwhelm the person who went through with the abortion, as well as their partner.
Because of this confusing blender of emotions, some women may not be willing to talk about the abortion. Although this “solution” allows them to shy away from the nagging issue, it may cause a hidden and deep-seated hurt that may blow out of proportion when it gets snagged in a random discussion.
On the Road to Recovery After Abortion
Dealing with the repercussions of the abortion goes farther than mere physical healing. Some women consider the abortion as a fitting closure, but it can feel more like a gaping wound held tight by a band-aid if it’s not addressed properly.
Addressing post-abortion thoughts and feelings should involve the following steps:
- Grieve for the loss and the experience.
Instead of keeping your feelings sealed away, give yourself time and space to grieve. Denying the need to grieve may lead to depression, anger, and dependence on pain medication.
- Know that you have a future ahead.
Abortion is not the end of your life. Understanding the impact of your loss is the first step toward working through your abortion grief. You can successfully work through this process of grief & loss, feeling healed and restored from this experience.
- Talk to someone about it.
Don’t bottle up your thoughts about the experience. Instead, share it with someone whom you trust – may it be your husband, a family member, or a close friend. Open yourself up to them, and don’t be afraid of being judged or condemned.
If you feel like you need to talk to someone about the abortion recovery process and the things that you’re going through after abortion, we at Care Net are more than willing to listen.
By participating in a program like Healing Tide, you’ll be provided a safe and confidential environment that offers several ways to help you in your journey towards healing and restoration. This support comes from 1-on-1 mentorship with someone who’s been through the experience, weekly small groups and/or weekend retreats.
Feel free to give us a call at 253-272-1818, or send us an email at [email protected].