Guys… there’s no substitute for you.
Clear your mind and listen to what she is saying. Try to understand her feelings. Gather information about options available to her. Talk to family and friends you trust for support. Care Net of Puget Sound’s 24/7 Helpline is available for you. Give us a call at 1-877-NOT-ALONE. We are here for you to provide caring, free, and confidential help for you and your partner.
The first thing you need to do is find out that she is really pregnant and learn about your options. Care Net of Puget Sound provides confidential and free pregnancy testing services, along with many support services. We are here to help both of you come to an informed decision. To help her understand your support, go with her for the pregnancy testing appointment. She has more to lose in this pregnancy than you do because it will affect her physically. If she truly is pregnant, then she is already being overwhelmed by hormone changes that can have a great effect on her. Having your support will reassure her that you care.
You may not realize this, but abortion has many risks to the woman- emotional, psychological and physical. While you may not experience the abortion physically, abortion can affect you as well. If you care about this woman in your life, you will want to protect her from harm.
Care Net of Puget Sound can help you in a variety of ways should she actually be pregnant. We offer an extensive referral network to agencies and groups who will help you and your partner with your parenting plan. Other support services include maternity clothes, baby furniture, parenting classes, etc. You won’t be alone in supporting her in this pregnancy. We can help you share this truth with both your family and hers and explore all your options. Care Net of Puget Sound does not refer for, facilitate or provide abortions.
Here are some Dos and Don’ts to help you through this:
Don’ts:
- Don’t assume that she wants to be pregnant and carry to term.
- Don’t assume that she wants to abort the pregnancy.
- Don’t assume abortion is the “easy way out.”
- Don’t assume that she is not considering adoption.
- Don’t assume that she was trying to get pregnant on purpose.
Dos:
- Do make her health your top priority.
- Do take her someplace to see a health professional.
- Do encourage her to get an ultrasound
- Do talk openly and honestly about all the options: parenting, abortion, and adoption.
- Do help and stay involved if she does decide to parent.
Remember the decision is ultimately hers to make. You should be able to express your opinion but you should never force her into a decision.
Care Net of Puget Sound is here for you, too! We will provide your partner with excellent advice and medical care, but we are also here to give you crucial information and guidance through this very difficult and confusing time.
Men, it’s time to stand up and take part in your pregnant partner’s life. She needs to know that you care and you are ready to walk through this with her.
- If she decides to parent, be “man enough” to be a dad.
- If she decides to allow someone to adopt the baby, be “man enough” to assist her to choose a great family.
- If she is considering abortion, be “man enough” to get her accurate and caring counsel.
Men, remember that it took you to help create this pregnancy, so stand up and help create a wonderful outcome.
Disclaimer: This site, and all information contained herein, is designed to be an informational tool only. It is not intended to provide medical advice or replace care from a qualified medical practitioner.
Our Center offers peer counseling and accurate information about all pregnancy options. This center is not an abortion clinic and does not offer abortion services or abortion referrals.
